Can you believe it is February 1st? January just flew by! As many think of February as the month of love, I thought it would be interesting to address one of the many concerns that women of color have about transitioning to a natural hairstyle. I've found that some women feel that if they go natural, men will not find them attractive. This was actually a concern of mine before I went natural as well. So, I decided to actually ASK a few men what their preference was (imagine that!) instead of assuming what it would be. These gentlemen were more than happy to give their honest opinions. They were asked to respond to the following:
Does whether a woman wear her hair natural or relaxed factor into whether or not you find her attractive? Define what IS attractive to YOU.
Now at the initial sight of a woman all men do a head to toe "check out" because our initial attraction to anyone is based on how they look physically. We look at the hair to see if it looks nice, we check out the face and body. If a woman is going to go natural it has to be groomed. The most unattractive thing is nasty hair. I don't want to see flakes in your hair. I'm not running my fingers through that. To be honest, most men don't care about what type of hair a woman has on her head. They just want to be able to touch it in the heat of the moment and the +$200.00 weave or lace fronts aren't going down that way. So natural is a lot better. About 3 years ago, I saw a woman at a local night club who's hair was shorter then mine and cut very close. She was one of the most attractive women I have seen around. I'm all for a woman that does something "different" with her hair then the typical weave you see on Beyonce or other women in entertainment who are glorified as gorgeous.
Taurean P, 28
2) What I do find most attractive about a woman is her confidence. Having said that, a woman who opts for something other than the traditional relaxed hairstyle appears to me to exude that confidence. Whether the hairstyle was by choice or necessity, I find it appealing when a woman really owns and embraces a change such as that.
Christopher W., 37
My definition of "attractive" are the striking features that a woman carries, and how she carries herself. There is not one thing that makes a woman attractive, because there are all types of attractive women.